They use "deactivating strategies" (such as focusing on minor flaws, longing for an ex, or pulling away during good moments) to maintain emotional distance. The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: The Most Common Conflict
: These individuals crave intimacy, are often preoccupied with their relationships, and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. apegados+amir+levine+pdf
Understanding your attachment style—and that of your partner—is the first step toward relationship satisfaction. 1. The Anxious Attachment Style (Estilo Ansioso) They use "deactivating strategies" (such as focusing on
Levine e Heller demonstram de forma brilhante que uma combinação de estilos pode ser um campo fértil para a infelicidade. A atração magnética entre uma pessoa Ansiosa e uma Evitativa cria uma das dinâmicas mais dolorosas e comuns dos relacionamentos frustrados, onde um corre atrás (ansioso) e o outro foge (evitativo). O livro oferece um guia para reconhecer esse padrão e, o mais importante, quebrá-lo. O livro oferece um guia para reconhecer esse
"It saved my last relationship," she said softly. "Well, helped me end it peacefully, actually. It taught me what I deserved."
They offer a reliable "secure base" for their partners. They celebrate their partner's successes and provide comfort during hard times without fearing a loss of independence. 2. Anxious Attachment (Apego Ansioso)